Friday, September 21, 2018

Part goose, part puppy, Mister Wally is a Goopy, Torn Slatterns and Nugget Ranchers


The Cleveland Browns got their first win in 635 days. Which is 4,445 days in Dog Pound Years.




New York Jet, Isaiah Crowell celebrated a touchdown against Cleveland by wiping the ball on his butt and throwing it in the Browns' stands. 

Or as they call that in Cleveland, a Johnny Manziel draft pick.






The Cleveland Browns won, so Bud Light unlocked beer coolers all over town with 300 bottles of beer in them. They decided this was smarter than their other promotion: Free Whisky and Chainsaws.


The Cleveland Browns won, so Bud Light  unlocked beer coolers all over town with 300 bottles of beer in them. They decided this was smarter than their other promotion: Free hookers and cocaine.





In her book, Stormy Daniels claimed Steeler QB, Ben Roethlisberger, terrified her when he walked her to her hotel room. 

Are we now so sensitive that two-time rape-charged 6-6, 250 man pushing on your hotel room door makes you uncomfortable? Sheesh.





A woman in "Salon" magazine described a date in the '70's with Donald Trump:  He did not open her car door, he talked boringly about himself, she had to pay for dinner and a cab.  

"That sounds awesome," said Stormy Daniels.



Kylie Jenner tweeted she tried cereal and milk for the first time at age 21. With her father being on the box of Wheaties, you would have thought she could have grasped the cereal concept earlier.




I'm a biased Chicago Bulls fan, but Kareem Abdul Jabbar made playing basketball in Hollywood for tens of millions of dollars seem as fun as breaking rocks on a 100 degree day.





Not really sure I am buying Mark Wahlberg's 2:30 AM wake-up, 7:30 PM bedtime schedule. 

This is from the 5.6-inch actor who said he would have stopped the 9/11 terrorists if he was on their plane.



New York Jet, Isaiah Crowell celebrated a touchdown against Cleveland by wiping the ball on his butt and throwing it in the Browns' stands. He received and unsportsmanlike conduct penalty and was charged with impersonating Ryan Leaf.




The Cleveland Brown's won their first game in 635 days. To give you an idea how long ago what was, 635 days ago they were the Cleveland Light-Beige.



Since you asked:

Every year, there is that one day where the air is cooler, the shadows are longer, the day is shorter, and you truly sense it is Fall.


Today was that day. 


 I wrote this on June 10th, 2013. 

What do we have to do to get Gloria Allred to sue Donald Trump? How awesome would that be? Two of the biggest and most litigious publicity whores, both with rancid and vile personalities, each with the vindictive tenacity of pit-bulls.




Wednesday, September 19, 2018


Oh Kerswinky, oh Kerswanky, oh Kerswinky Swanky Sue, Torn Slatterns and Nugget Ranchers





Happy #TalkLikeAPirateDay For some reason I thought this was in Marrrrrrrrrrrch.




Donald Trump is surveying the flood damage following Hurricane Florence. Things are bad. Trump may have to throw paper towels and mops.




Kylie Jenner is trending because she tweeted she tried milk and cereal for the first time. Kylie liked it so much, she wrote the recipe down.



Stormy Daniels wrote a book giving the details of having sex with Donald Trump called "Full Disclosure." Interesting fact: the only time Stormy used the word long in the book was when talking about her shower after.




Let's see how Sarah Huckabee Sanders responds to a question about Stormy Daniels's accusation Donald Trump has a small penis. I'm guessing her answer will also be short.





In "Full Disclosure," Stormy Daniels described Donald Trump's genitalia in detail. The second most embarrassing fact? Trump has two combovers.





Stormy Daniels just wrote a book giving the intimate details about having sex with Donald Trump. It is available at your bookstore in the "I just threw up in my mouth" section. 





Stormy Daniels wrote a book giving detailing sex with Donald Trump. Daniels said the sex was not two minutes, the least impressive ever and Trump’s penis was small and shaped like a toadstool mushroom. Apparently $130,000 does not include good reviews.

If Trump is not careful, this Stormy Daniels thing could get embarrassing.






Donald Trump: "Stormy Daniels is a liar."

Stormy Daniels: "Donald Trump's penis looks like a toadstool."

Melania storms out of the room furiously.


Since you asked;





The Toadstool Monument


When it comes to presidential staffs, Donald Trump is not the first to have a member, shall we say, described. 

But he is the first to be mocked for his shortcomings.

Lyndon Johnson was infamous for brandishing his penis, but, in pizza terms, LBJ was more in the large sausage than a mushroom.

Yes Sir, LBJ was well-known for brandishing his and proclaiming, 

“Have you ever seen anything as big as this sumbitch?” 

Or words to that effect.

Paula Jones testified that Bill Clinton’s, despite his democratic tendencies, actually had leanings to the right. Five inches erect and diameter of a quarter, and a turn to the right, to be specific according to Jones’s testimony. 

Normal, but far, far, far from presidential.

One might surmise Richard Nixon was called “Tricky Dick” for a reason. A book or two has been written that Nixon’s sexual predilections were similar to J. Edgar Hoover’s. Sun bathing naked with Bebe Rebozo on Rebozo’s yacht while singing show tunes does not seem to refute that theory. 

And it could be assumed, if you make an ass of you and me, that Teddy Roosevelt did not come up with the name Bull Moose Party by accident.

For all his “Camelot” class, John F. Kennedy was famous for complaining if he did not have sex once a day he got blinding headaches. But from Marilyn to mafia fun girl, Judith Exner, the JFK reviews were not lavish. The words wham and bam seemed to come up. Exner or Marilyn, I cannot remember which, compared JFK quite unfavorably to Elvis saying Elvis really was the King.


This might be due to JFK’s well known taste for prostitutes. It is how he lost his virginity according to several biographies. Prostitutes are not known to be famous for their extended performances. JFK might have picked up his speedy habits there. As well as more than a few medical problems.  

Unlike with Stormy and Trump, somehow I just can't picture Marilyn Monroe saying of JFK's penis, 


"It reminded me of the lollipop guild munchkin in 'The Wizard of Oz.'"

As a Kennedy fan, I want to excuse the alleged performance brevity on the myriad of drugs Dr. Feelgood, Max Jacobson, had JFK on. Speed and downers are not an aphrodisiac. And I worked out with his son, JFK Jr. at the Downtown Athletic Club once or twice and he was one genetically buffed dude. Not tall but not short. Same brown hair and model handsome. (Before you ask, no, I did not see him in the shower)   


Ambitious politicians, like professional athletes and entertainers and other born leaders, are often known to have voracious appetites for life. Clinton could suck down six plates of ribs. So could Martin Luther King Jr. Washington, Jefferson, Nixon, Truman, LBJ, Kennedy and especially Ulysses S. Grant, and many others were well-known drinkers. 

And A-types love the attention of beautiful women and women are attracted to powerful men. There is a reason half the historic homes in Virginia have a “Washington Slept Here” sign. Hell, although not a president, but a powerful man, Henry Kissinger was a well-known hound as was Benjamin Franklin. Neither one of them would be described as vaguely sexy.   

Teddy Roosevelt, despite his often-mocked "Bully, bully, tally ho, lads" Eastern rich-kid affected lock-jaw way of speaking, was a tough guy. A genuinely great horseman, he could jump tall fences, and he delivered a speech after getting shot in the chest. 

There is a story of a drunk North Dakota cowboy in a saloon menacingly and tauntingly mocking Teddy's goofy nose-glasses, gestures and fancy speech pattern right in front of Teddy to the guffaws of the other drunk cowboys in the bar. Teddy walked up to him and knocked the guy out cold with one punch. 

The bar got real silent. Teddy ate 12 eggs a day. While boxing at the White House, Teddy got blinded in one eye. 

No bone spurs on Teddy's heels.   

To a man, almost every president we had was a man's man, a poker-playing, cigar-smoking, booze-swizzling, juicy-steak-eating, skirt-chasing, dog-loving alpha male.

Except Donald Trump. He does not drink, eats meat over-cooked well-done and it is well documented he despises dogs.  

The old saying must be true: power really is an aphrodisiac. From Washington and Jefferson to Harding to FDR and Kennedy, many of our presidents were reputed horn dogs. For crying-out-loud, even straight-laced General Eisenhower was gettin' himself a little sumpin'-sumpin' on the side.

You storm that beach and get some, you Ike-dog, you.

However, make no mistake about it, Donald Trump is the only president whose both manhood and performance has been impugned as, shall we say, lacking. No Washington Monument will be erected in Trump’s memory, no doubt. 

Maybe the Trump Toadstool Monument? 

But Donald Trump has more than made up for his lack of physical endowment. Just ask the countless independent contractors Trump stiffed, excuse my expression. 

No, there is no doubt about it, Donald Trump has been a huge dick his entire life.


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Right now, I am exactly "I carry an old driver's license with me on my dog-hikes in case I drop dead so they can identify my body" years old.






Before I found my game as a confident and bonafide “player,” in college and after,  I was just a big, muscular decathlon/football-playing, long-haired, Eagles-loving jock on the outside my senior year in high school, but, on the inside, an insecure, highly sensitive dork, like my brother. 

As a result, I had my heart destroyed, crushed, eviscerated by not one, but two gorgeous but spoiled-rotten, selfish, rude, sadistic North Shore rich-girl brats.

Including a torn hamstring, a broken heart was not the best way to head off to college in California.  

To this day, in reflection of how spiteful, mean and awful these women were to me, I still cannot stand hearing their names more than 40 years later. 

In keeping with what is going on in the news, 17-year-old boys know exactly what they're doing, or not doing, when it comes to having or not-having sex. 

They know exactly. And they remember. Saying anything else is a lie. Me? I remember each strawberry lip-gloss kiss, soft cashmere sweater, the smell of perfume and the joy of each unclasped bra. 

My theory as to why these two visual angels, but mental devils, were so viciously heartless to me -   and I was proven right after having sex in college with one - is they wanted to break up with me before I found out how, well, let’s say uninterested they were in having sex. At least in terms of having sex with a man. 

(Yes, you get my drift)

That summer of my existential heartache, complete with physically searing emotional pain, while in the gorgeous, brisk and pine-floral woods of Northern Michigan, hard against the white sandy shores of Lake Michigan, this god-awful song played on heavy rotation on radio mocking both my frustration and my pain: 


  



God only knows how much I hate this band and this song. 

F*@k you and your motto, you Harry Carey-glasses, polyester-cowboy-shirt-stolen-from-a-pimp-in-a-gay-leather-bar shirt wearer and your Carla-from-"Cheers" hair, you day-humping uber dork.

And yet, despite my sun-hot hatred for this band, I can understand why others like them. Good voices and harmonies. 

So go eff, yourselves, Eagles haters. Go eff that ess right in the bee. 


  



Wednesday, September 12, 2018

Vladimir Putin said the two men suspected of poisoning the Russian double-agent in Britain do not work for Russia. "We totally believe that," said Russians who do not want to get poisoned.




"Fear," author Bob Woodward said Donald Trump cannot remember things one day later. Asked to comment, Trump said, "That makes me so furious, I want to . . . sorry, what were we talking about?"




According to a new poll, the best Mexican restaurant in the U.S. is Taco Bell. According to another poll, I will never listen to the results of a poll again.




Donald Trump gave a speech at the Congressional Medal of Honor ceremony. There was an extremely awkward moment when Trump clearly thought he would be receiving a Congressional Medal of Honor.

"So, when do I get it?"

"Get what, Sir?"

"You know."

"No, we don't." 

Followed by aides rushing up to Trump and whispering in his ear. Trump pouts and storms out. 





With hurricane Florence bearing down, I want to strongly recommend people near the coast of North Carolina, and in Winslow, Arizona evacuate. 

Winslow is not near the hurricane, but I spent the night there once and that town sucks. Get out now.





Since you asked:

Eric Trump is under fire for saying Bob Woodward, who is Jewish, wrote his book, "Fear," for "three extra shekels." (As you know, the shekel is the currency of Israel) 

This is shocking. Eric Trump knows what a shekel is? How is this even possible? He doesn't know anything.

Not for nothing, but as Trump scandals go, yes this makes Eric look like a schmuck, but it pales to other scandals paler than Eric is.

It would have been fine if Eric had been Jewish, or Woodward was not, but that is not the case. Three shekels is a slander at the stereotype of Jews being greedy and cheap.

Throw this on the massive dung heap that is now the lesser Trump scandals.



Tuesday, September 11, 2018



My friend and co-worker, Vincent "Vinny Boom Batz" Abate. The man would give you the shirt off his back. When I moved to San Diego in 1986, he was one of the first to call to throw me a trade. 

#September11 #NeverForget


Oh yeah? Well we celebrate Taco Wednesdays. Go ahead, call me a rebel, I don't care, Torn Slatterns and Nugget Ranchers






The over-and-under countdown until the Dallas Cowboys' Ezekiel Elliott does something really stupid is seven days.








In an interview, Paul McCartney admitted that he and John Lennon once masturbated with three other guys in a circle until John yelled out "Winston Churchill" and killed the mood.

Not sure what line this crosses, but it definitely crosses it.







In an interview, Norm Macdonald criticized the #MeToo movement and defended Roseanne Barr and Louis CK. The interview was done on the "I Want To Get Out of Show Business" radio show.







Donald Trump seemed gleeful in describing Hurricane Florence as "tremendously big and tremendously wet." So gleeful, Trump instinctively ordered Michael Cohen to pay Florence $130,000 to be quiet.







After his miraculous 20-point comeback win, Aaron Rodgers is having a hard time rehabbing his injured knee. He wants to get into the exercise pool, but he keeps walking on top of the water instead.






How did we ever get by without a football analyst named Booger?





It was two years ago when the ESPN Fantasy Football site went down. Which is more than any woman did to a guy playing Fantasy Football.









CNN reported the danger from Hurricane Florence is not just the 130 MPH winds. It is from the increase in water too.

Wow. A hurricane has to get up pretty early in the morning to fool CNN.

Since you asked:

Outside of my office door, I could hear Wally pacing and scuttling about. It was 6:00 PM. How he knows when it is his walk time, I have no idea, but he does. 

The problem? All my Under Armor underwear, the kind that are like bike shorts, but thinner, are in the wash. Do I blow off the walk and break Wally's heart? Oh, hell no.

Decided I would go on the walk free-balling. Yep, chafing to the 'taint and the boys be damned. 

It is a little something we chosen few like to call being a hero.

You're welcome.



The Anatomy of a Trump Lie



Donald Trump lies. Even his most ardent followers know this, they have seen him caught on tape lying, ala the Stormy Daniels payment, countless times.

But I think Trump’s admirers think he thinks of lying like poker players think of bluffing. If it works, it is a skill. That’s not true, of course. Lying is lying. 

The “Washington Post” fact-checker says Trump has lied seven times a day since he has been in office. 

But, on this sad day of remembrance, a lie Trump told during his campaign about what he did on September 11th, 2001, really stands out. Even for Trump.

In the 2016 speech, Trump says, attempting to compliment the 9/11 rescuers, but so narcissistic, he had to compliment himself too, said the rescuers dug in to find survivors  and that, get this, he, Donald Trump, pitched in to help them.  

Got that? 

When the flames were still smoldering on the ruble, Trump said he helped the rescuers look for survivors. Rescuers who are now dying of cancer as a result of the toxins they took in 17 years ago.

The problem?

Trump has countless witnesses that have him cowering in Trump Tower the entire day of 9/11. Two days later, Trump made his first appearance at Ground Zero and gave an interview to a German TV station, but he never helped the rescuers.

Donald Trump lied about helping the September 11th rescuers.

On the day of the worst catastrophe of most of our lies, 3,000 innocently senselessly slaughtered, Donald Trump lied about pitching in to help the rescuers find survivors. 

Let that sink in. Not all lies are the same. But this lie is unspeakably horrible and unforgivable.

That is as despicable as anyone can be about September, 11th, right? Wrong.

There is a taped phone conversation of Donald Trump doing an interview, right after the towers collapsed, where Trump actually brags that, now that the Twin Towers are gone, his 40 Wall Street building is the tallest downtown. 

That almost makes me sick and terrifies me as to how much egomania has infected Donald Trump’s brain. Forget 3,000 people dying in a fiery collapse, he now has the tallest building downtown. 

For the love of god, would someone else lie and tell this asshole his penis is not tiny?




Here is my list of comedians who have already made it big as comedians and are famous among comedians, but who are one big show away from becoming big stars and household names:

Iliza Schlesinger. “Time” magazine just listed her as someone to stream. She has moved up from clubs to theaters and sells out all over the world. She is legitimately hot looking and smarter than a whip. Good combination. Many Netflix specials, all are good in a Ted Talk kind of way. And she has a cool guy as a new husband, Smokey Husky. He and I exchanged tweets after he was on "Chopped." 


Gary Gulman. This guy is a genuine wordsmith and a guru at making observations about day-to-day life from Chipotle to iPhones. He is a master story teller as witnessed by his incredible bit on the documentary of the people who were tasked with abbreviating each state to two letters for the post office in 1973. He is honest about his bouts with depression. A 6.6 handsome ex-jock who is sensitive. Great combo. Deserves to be a star.  Gulman tours like crazy and always writes new material. Hollywood would be crazy not to throw money at this guy to produce his own pilot. 


Nikki Glaser. She is huge inside the comedy world and now is busting out into the larger entertainment world. Also legitimately hot looking and sexy as hell because she does not thinks she is sexy, but she is. Her legs are other-worldly. Think a tall, sexier Amy Schumer, if Amy Schumer was not a crude, joke-stealing hack. Nikki, unlike Amy, when she gets her break-out shooting star moment, will deserve it.


Bert Kreischer. The guy who looks like the Limp Biscuit guy. He is funny as hell in a everyman/knucklehead, party animal kind of way. But he is also a good dad and husband. Not cerebral, on the blue side, but he has absolutely no fear. Gonads bigger than bowling balls.


Deon Cole. Was a big fan of him back when he was a writer doing bits on "Conan," like January Jones. His bit when he gave comments while riding a desk moving across the stage and ending all jokes with "Then shut the hell up" was amazing. He wrote and was a regular on "Blackish." How a staff had a cool guy like this and an uber dork like Jordan Schlansky is hard to fathom. 


And here are the comedian ready to replace these four’s spots as up-and-coming comedians who make it huge among comedians. Think Louis C.K. before all the jerking off. 

Emma Willman. She is like Ellen’s younger and edgier sister. Her act is her life: she is a lesbian from a small town in Maine. And she is candid about her learning disabilities. All of this adds up to an honest, genuine and really sweet person. And she is funny as hell. Have written jokes for her, so I admit I am biased, but she is the real thing. Honestly feel and hope she makes it big. 

Dan LaMorte. Follow him on Twitter and have seen his stand up on YouTube. Burly bearded guy. Great stuff about being an ex-jock and stoner living at home. And he is a good writer. I am biased for good Twitter writers. And a nice guy. 

Erica Rhodes. A legitimate working actress who has had big parts on “Modern Family” and others. Being hot looking also does not hurt Erica. She is also smart and a damn good writer on Twitter. 

Babs Gray. Sexy in the busty librarian way. Also a great Twitter writer and climbing in the stand up world in LA. 

Marie Connor. Have not seen her act, but she is beyond brilliant on Twitter. Politically savvy and succinct. Damn good writer. Also a lesbian. Mention it because, like Emma, it is a big part of her act.

Claude Shires. We were La Jolla Comedy Store buddies. He has done a few national commercials. McDonalds included. Used to beg him to do his "Groundskeeper Willy" impression from "The Simpsons." Good family man and very talented. One of the last of our 90's La Jolla Comedy Store crew connections with Bobby Lee, who took off on "Mad TV" and Vicky Barbolak who, as we speak, is getting way overdue recognition on "America's Got Talent." (I've got a whole other story about Vicky for another occasion that will turn your genitals to hummus) 

Lang Parker. Good ol' Wisconsin girl and world class dog owner with the cutest dog in the world besides Wally, Bennie. She works hard, hits the road in her car drives all night to perform in Oregon, Washington and Arizona - takes Bennie with her - and deserves a huge, big ass break. She is very funny and has a ton of positive energy. Clean too.







Gary Gulman: In This Economy - Found 20 In An Old Coat

Monday, September 10, 2018

cannot believe what I am seeing. Where have you people been all your lives? Listening to Mick Jagger and bad-mouthing your country, Torn Slatterns and Nugget Ranchers






Immediately after her fling with Donald Trump, Stormy Daniels switched to all-girl porn films.  Not surprising. Donald Trump has turned more women into lesbians than high school gym teachers named Deb.




As a Chicago Bear fan, I have to admit that was an amazing 20-point comeback by Aaron Rodgers to win 24-23 after a knee injury. That is the greatest comeback since Frankenstein’s monster went from the grave to getting married.






The sparse crowd at the Chargers game in Los Angeles was mostly Kansas City Chief fans. Time to admit the Chargers moving to L.A. is the worst move since Custer decided to attack Sitting Bull at the Little Big Horn.

Or the Australians on the shores of Gallipoli who said, "The Turks haven't fired for a while, let's take a run at them."

What do the L.A. Chargers and the Baltimore Colts have in common? Neither one has any fans. 





Furious at Bob Woodward’s book, “Fear,” Donald Trump has vowed to write a rebuttal. Whoa, pump the brakes, Captain Bigly Covfefe, shouldn’t you read a book before you try and write one?




Since you asked:



“Did You Hear the One About the Old Fat Guy?” 



Ten years ago, when I was a fit 50-year-old ex-Decathlete still running, stand-up paddle board surfing and lifting weights, I was on a flight in the middle seat, next to the only empty seat on the plane, the window seat. In fact, I was just about to move into it. (This is before airlines charged you for moving into an empty seat) 

On to the plane stepped the last passenger to board, a genuinely fat guy. Just this side of morbidly obese. Crap, I thought,  New York to freaking San Diego and Tony "Ten Chins" is sitting next to me. And on me. He might as well be holding a crying baby too. Why didn't the guy buy two seats? 

And I bet he farts like a busted calliope. Swear to god, if he takes his shoes off, I am going to go full Ninja on his doughy ass. 

These were just a few of the nice thoughts running through my gentle and kind mind, as I was tired and cranky from dealing with the incredibly rude people at the airline. 

So I probably did not do a great job of hiding my frustration from Mr. Tony "Ten Chins" and his giant bubble butt, who was going to sit next to me for four hours, as he trundled down the aisle.

Tony, as I now called him, turned out to be an extremely pleasant and friendly man. Real midwestern old school good guy. 

But he could not hide his expression of worry and hurt on his round, ruddy face. Something was seriously bothering him - he was sighing audibly - and I was afraid it might have been my hurting his feelings with my insensitive body language and facial expression on seeing  he was my seat-mate. Suddenly feeling quite guilty, because he was such a sweet, gentle soul, I asked, 

“You, uh, you a little nervous about flying? You seem upset.” 

“No, no, I love flying. But thanks for asking.” But the sad and worried look on his face said otherwise.  

Then, all at once, Tony steeled himself, took a deep breath, blew it out, sucked in his gut, straightened up and buckled his seat belt with a hard, fast and furious loud click.

“Oh, thank goodness. Oh, thank goodness,“ Tony rejoiced. “I can buckle my seatbelt. Oh, I was so afraid I would have to ask the flight attendant for an extension. (Whispering) They can be quite nasty about that.” 

Then Tony laughed out loud with relief. He was so happy. My heart broke.  The poor guy had been torturing himself about having to ask for the seatbelt extension.

My dad was the best guy I have even known and I love him so much and I miss him each and every single day. But my dad, Bob Kaseberg, for the 15 years before the end of his life, even at a youthful-looking 62 when he died, was heavier than he wanted to be. He had been a skinny kid his whole life until, like me, about 45. While he just had a double chin and a gut, like I do, he could not hide his hurt if someone made fun of his extra weight.

As a kid, that look of hurt in my dad's eyes crushed me. Absolutely crushed me. At the time I distinctly remember thinking this world might not be such a great place after all if there are people out there who would tease my father. 

At 58, after a pretty serious shoulder surgery for skin cancer, skin grafts and all, I stopped all exercise. In that one year, I turned into a bonafide fat guy. Once I finally admitted to myself I had turned into a fat guy, with the help of some disturbing pictures of myself, I became depressed about exercising, so I avoided it. 

And then I became depressed about almost everything else. It was what they call a downward spiral. Depression, as I learned, can spread to your stomach. 

It is now two years after that. I’m 60 and getting a divorce I do not want, and what I used to call my Tony Soprano starter-kit gut has blossomed into a full fat guy’s gut.

Now I am a fat guy. There is no getting around it. It is a testament to denial how I was able to avoid thinking of myself as fat. Hitting your gut when opening the refrigerator door is a hard fact to ignore.


When I went to my Decathlon/ Heptathlon track reunion at UCSB in July, which is comprised of the nicest, kindest people in the world, only a few let slip with some jokes. But, wow, did they hurt. Because, unlike some other chuckleheads I know, I truly care what these people think.

So, during the weekend, I would make jokes to get ahead of the problem. 

“Yeah, if I had had this gut when I did the Decathlon, my 100 meters time would have been half a second faster. Why? Because my stomach would get to the finish line way before I did.” 

That got a big laugh. Laughter from jokes about how fat you are don’t hurt as much if you make them. And it makes people feel you're OK with being fat. Even though you are not. At all. 

When you used to be a chiseled and buffed jock, admitting you are now fat is like burying your own youthful image of yourself in a funeral. 

Honest to god, I am living proof there are no jolly fat people. There are only sensitive fat people who want to lighten the tension of someone saying something hurtful. So they, we, make with the self-depreciating fat jokes. 

Hence the misconception of the jolly fat guy.  

Even when I was still working out or surfing most days in my early-fifties, I must have been heavier than I thought. My love of grilling and wine abounded. 

We had friends over for dinner, including their, um, extremely precocious ten-year old, Jayson.  And, when I mentioned I had ran earlier that day, Jayson, asked if I had gone running without a shirt. When I jokingly assured Jayson those days of my running shirtless were long over, hoping the topic would die, Jayson piped up,

“Because today I saw another really fat guy running without a shirt.”

They all laughed and laughed and laughed. Even my wife and daughter laughed. And then they talked about how funny their son, Jayson, was for about ten minutes. And I had to sit there and plaster an insincere smile and pretend a ten-year-old did not just make me want to cry.

Now I have turned 60 and have had a “Come-to-Jesus” epiphany about being fat, so I am cutting way back on all things food and drink. Plus I have a jury trial coming up, and I am going to look good for it. 

Finally my hating being fat has made me gut-sick enough to cut down on food. Being fat is killing my appetite.

At 60, I am getting divorced, I am old and fat, and I can only do something about one of those things. Also, I am increasing my hikes with my dog Wally. In addition, I have made plans, once, my gut recedes even more, to get back on my stand up paddle board.  

The plan is get in good enough shape to enter a 5K stand up paddle board race. Once I have a goal, the weight will melt off, I know. 

And, I am proud to report my massive gut is receding, but not as quickly as my hairline. What the living hell, aging? 

Aging is not fair. Slowing metabolisms are not fair. Yes, I am fat, but I have never once in my life done fat guy stuff like eat a whole package of cookies, or an entire cake or pie, or an entire pint of ice cream. Never, in my life have I eaten an entire large pizza. And I swear on the Colonel, I have never eaten an entire bucket of chicken. I’ve never eaten more than one cheeseburger. 

And I loves me some cheeseburgers.

But when it comes to wine and cheese and fresh bread? It must be the one-quarter French in me.  

The other day, when I met old friends for drinks, probably to try and be funny, a former friend whacked me on the stomach. Hard. It hurt. A lot. But the mental pain was, as always, worse. 

(Side note: the split second my former friend hit my gut is also the second he became a former friend)

Never, not once, have I insulted someone for being fat. Well, once when I was a kid, but that was only to Charlie Brones. But that was OK because Charlie was a genuine rich-kid, full-blown asshole. No joke.  He was a dick. 

Maybe being a fat, rich-kid made Charlie an asshole and a dick, but, whatever the reason was, Charlie was a flaming asshole. And a dick.  People who did not agree on anything agreed on this.  

But, besides, Charlie, I never made fun of a fat person. Ever. Writing jokes about famous fat people, yes, I have written jokes, ala Elvis, Chris Christie, the once-fat Bill Clinton, Steve Bannon, but never to someone’s face or even behind their back.

In addition, I began to feel writing jokes about how fat someone is makes you look like the bad guy. And I do not want to look like the bad guy.  

And this is coming from a guy, me, who had legit six-pack abs from the age of 13 to 40. Thirty years of having a ripped abdomen. But a couple of times at Christmas break in college, I put on enough pounds in the three weeks of over-indulging, so that when I got back to UCSB, a fellow track team member once said, 

“Damn, Alex, you got fat.” 

And I replied, 

“Yes, Tom, and you’re going bald. But I can always lose weight.”

Thank you, drunk Winston Churchill. 

Even though most of my life I was muscular, I was prone to gaining weight. So I have been sensitive of the difficulty of trying to lose weight quite a few times. So I never teased someone about being fat. Not once.

Besides Charlie Brones. (Not his real name) Did I mention he was a dick? 

So why do I get teased so much? It's not fair, but I have some good friends who have awful diseases, so I cannot complain about what is or is not fair. But it isn't. Fair that is. 

Although I am not Jewish, because of my name, Kaseberg, I have, from time to time, run into anti-Semitism. (At first I was going to say bad anti-Semitism, but all anti-Semitism  is bad, isn't it?) The worst was from a high school football coach. It was awful being hated for something I could not control. It was awful.  

Hate me because I am too loud, or too goofy, or too talkative, too lazy, tell bad jokes and long stories, or that I am too messy. All things that I could change if I wanted to, but don't. Do not hate me for something I cannot do anything about. Like ending my sentences in prepositions. 

Now I can sense dirty looks from people who just generally don’t like old, fat guys. It is also awful.   

Here is an important thing to know about us fat, old people: We didn’t want to be fat and old. It just happened. Slowly. Nobody outside of sumo wrestling wants to be fat. Nobody, except the dead, wants to be old. 

And now I am heading headlong into the realization that there simply are not many old and fat people walking around for all the obvious medical complication reasons.  

When I lose this weight - and I will, I do still have physical discipline if not my pride - I swear I will never write another fat joke again.

"From here on in I rag nobody." Henry Wiggin. "Bang the Drum Slowly." 


Except Chris Christie. 

That fat bastard is just asking for it.